The Voice That Freed Lauren Grodstein from a Narrative Dead End


Starting in 2004, Lauren Grodstein recalled, “I spent three years writing a book that went nowhere. The bigger it got, the worse it got.” After a six-month period of “questioning everything,” she woke up one morning with a new character’s voice in her head. “I knew he had done something wrong,” she explained to me, “but I didn’t know what.” So she wrote what she heard all morning, took herself out to lunch, then came back, looked at the pages, and liked what she saw. Three and a half months later, Grodstein had a first draft of A Friend of the Family, in which Pete Dizinoff reveals to readers (in his own meandering way) just how his life went wrong: “It was like he was sitting on my shoulder, dictating.”

Grodstein was inspired in part by real-life incidents she’d read about in the 1990s, when teenage girls would give birth in public rest rooms or similarly inappropriate places then kill the infants or leave them to die (or be discovered). “Those stories had always haunted me,” she said, and soon she found herself exploring how a girl who would do something like that would intersect with a doctor in his mid-fifties like Pete. (It’s not giving too much away to say that it’s ten years after the incident, and the girl in question, the daughter of Pete’s best friend, is embarking on a relationship with Pete’s college-age son, and Pete’s not happy about that.) The story unfolds after everything has gone to hell, freeing Grodstein to write about the consequences of Pete’s actions while he’s recounting the events, reaching back and jumping forward in his chronology over and over. The non-linear narrative line has drawn some complaints, but “it was never a conscious decision that I would put this digression here, this explanation here,” she insisted, describing the way she wrote it as “just as if I was telling you a story.”

The other complaint some early readers and reviewers have had is that Pete’s an unlikable character—a complaint neither Grodstein or I really quite got, as the point of the novel isn’t that you’re supposed to like Pete, but you’re supposed to recognize the humanity of what he did. Sure, he’s willing to sabotage his son’s romantic relationship, but he’s doing it to protect what he considers to be his son’s best interests, and for that he won’t apologize. “Pete’s a lot more honest than some people,” Grodstein conceded. “Maybe honesty makes you unlikable.” Overall, though, she’s having a great time promoting the novel, her first for Algonquin Books, and observes that “it’s a sad book, but it’s brought me a lot of joy.” Not only did it break her out of that three-year dead end, you see, but her agent was able to sell it, fifteen months ago, the day after the birth of her son.

1 December 2009 | interviews |