{"id":3183,"date":"2013-12-01T23:50:19","date_gmt":"2013-12-02T03:50:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/?p=3183"},"modified":"2016-03-20T11:44:53","modified_gmt":"2016-03-20T15:44:53","slug":"life-stories-55-nancy-k-miller","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/2013\/12\/01\/life-stories-55-nancy-k-miller\/","title":{"rendered":"Life Stories #55: Nancy K. Miller"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Life Stories<\/i> is a podcast series where I talk to memoir writers about their lives and the art of writing memoir. This week’s guest, Nancy K. Miller<\/a>, teaches classes on memoir as a professor of English and comparative literature at CUNY, so one of the things I made sure to ask her was whether that made it any easier to tackle her own life writing, as seen in Breathless: An American Girl in Paris<\/i><\/a>. “Not really,” she told me, but she also mentioned that her awareness of what literary theorists call “the autobiographical pact” strengthened her own resolve to be truthful in telling her story, even when adding stylistic embellishments.<\/p>\n

Mostly, though, we talked about the story she tells of a young woman in the 1960s, fresh out of college, inspired by Jean Seberg in Godard’s Breathless<\/i> to go to Paris where she attempted to become, as she puts it, someone other than her parents’ daughter—only to find that the more she tries to break that orbit, the tighter she gets locked into it. That eventually led her into a marriage which, I observed, she eventually set about undermining with a fascinating precision through an extramarital affair. Her response was intriguing:<\/p>\n

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“I know this might seem impossible, but\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 I had never been in therapy, I didn’t know anyone in therapy, I’d almost say I didn’t know I had an unconscious–and the concept of self-sabotage was not available to me. What I think happened was, because I really was not on to myself, I just kept going along with a certain amount of unhappiness and frustration with no language for it, and I also had no vision, because I was so invested in the idea that I was going to remain in Paris and remain in this situation that I couldn’t see a way out. I didn’t even know I would approach the idea of there being a problem, say, in my marriage because my ex was not someone you could even talk to\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 talk with about these things, because he didn’t have an unconscious either, as far as I could tell.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

We also talk about how she initially rejected the advice from the therapist she shared this story with as it was happening, and how the blossoming of the feminist movement in the late 1960s and 1970s ultimately helped her turn her life around once she stopped worrying about who she was supposed to be<\/i> and began to contemplate what she could do<\/i>. Longtime listeners might recall an earlier interview with Jessica Dorfman Jones<\/a> about the slow destruction of her own marriage and the early glimpses of her life afterwards, which makes for an interesting juxtaposition here, I think—so if you haven’t<\/i> heard that episode before, I’d encourage to seek it out.<\/p>\n

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Nancy K. Miller went to Paris after graduating college in the 1960s, inspired by Jean Seberg in Godard’s Breathless and determined to become somebody other than her parents’ daughter–and, in her mind, sexual liberation was a key part of that transformation. Her plans didn’t quite pan out, though, and she eventually found herself in a dreadful marriage which she subsequently destroyed. In this episode of Life Stories, I talk to Miller about that period of her life, which she’s written about in Breathless: An American Girl in Paris, and about how her current work as a scholar of memoir writing has shaped her own approach to the craft.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[272],"tags":[696,639,698,132,695,697,305],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3183"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3183"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3183\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3834,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3183\/revisions\/3834"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3183"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3183"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beatrice.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3183"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}